Published June 7, 2023
Congratulations, you've said, "Yes!" and now your ever-growing
wedding to-do list won't stop until you say "I do." Among the slew
of wedding-planning tasks between celebrating your engagement and
walking down the aisle is registering for wedding gifts—a fun, yet
time- and thought-consuming task that you certainly won't regret.
But determining exactly when to register within your giant
timeline of events can be confusing, so we're here to help.
In terms of general etiquette guidelines, most professionals agree
that within the seven to nine-month range before your wedding date
is the ideal time to register. Within this time, it's implied that
your bridal shower and any other pre-wedding festivities will take
place, and with your registry created and ready to go, gift-giving
(and receiving) will be a breeze.
Start Early If You're Having an Engagement Party
If you and your future spouse decide to have an engagement celebration or if a close friend or family member is throwing one for you, it's important to create your wedding registry beforehand (unless it is a surprise). While some couples opt for a "no gift" message to spread before an engagement party, most people will still want to give a gift to celebrate your milestone. Without registering prior to the celebration, you might end up with a ton of "Mr. & Mrs." décor, or stuff you don't really need (or want). While all gifts should be graciously accepted and appreciated, if you can register before your engagement party, it's ideal.
The Must-Register Deadline: Your Bridal Shower
This is a must. As long as you're having a bridal shower, you really need to register for wedding gifts. Whether you opt for filling your wedding registry with traditional housewares, honeymoon funds, or newlywed adventures—guests at your shower will want the guidance to help them select the perfect gift, and you'll be happy that you did.
Consider Your Needs
Don't feel obligated to register at one of the "standard"
retailers like all your married friends registered at before you.
You don't need to stick to classic stores or traditional wedding
gifts. If you and your partner already live together or don't have
a need for new bakeware or monogram towels, don't register for
them. Your guests want to give you gifts you will truly love, not
that you've added out of obligation.
Remember, nearly all registries are digitized now, and you can
edit and update your lists at any time, so if you go in person to
scan for wedding gifts, try not to feel too pressured into making
the perfect registry.